So, a couple of weeks ago, I met Veronica and Jace. They hired me to do their elopement at Cypress Valley Event Center, which is my second wedding there. I met them the day before the elopement at Picnik to get acquainted. They lived in Chicago and came all the way to the South to commit to one another.
When they told me about their plans for the wedding ceremony, I just fell in love with it. The first thing on their agenda? To meditate. They spent a few minutes at the beginning of their ceremony meditating in the trees. How amazing is that?! I can barely meditate for five minutes in my bed, let alone the moment I’m getting married!
Then, they spoke about their intentions for their commitment to one another.
This ceremony was really special. Jace even sang his vows to her, and I teared up. I wish I could have recorded it and show it. They have a box where they collect things from experiences, such as a crab claw from a beach walk. Crystals intended to provide support to their relationship. Affirmations to keep the energy going positively.
I feel blessed and honored to have been included in this ceremony. The meaningful collection of activities started their commitment off the right way, and that’s just pure magic.
Why I Love Intentional Weddings
I am deeply in love with this idea of setting intentions on a wedding day and in a ceremony. It puts into the Universe what you’d like out of your commitment to one another, and that’s some really powerful stuff. I also love the idea of meditating right at the beginning of a ceremony because it helps you be more present in the moment.
So many of my couples, as well as people getting hitched in general, say that it all goes by in a blur. I think this is because they aren’t taking a moment to be present together. Starting the ceremony with meditation is a perfect way to re-center yourself with your best friend.
Living an intentional life takes a lot of work. It takes planning, forethought, and consideration of realistic goals. Having a relationship with someone that is intentional is actually a lot of work, whether you’re monogamous or polyamorous. It’s easy to slip into the daily drivel, letting the hours pass by without acknowledgment. I personally believe that if you start your marriage or commitment with intentions, the tone is set going forward. And that’s a pretty amazing thing.
3 Ways To Add Intention To Your Wedding Day
Write Your Own Wedding Vows
While writing your own wedding vows isn’t for everyone, this can be a wonderful way to add some real intention to the day. It doesn’t have to be some epic saga story—it can just be a simple expression of what matters to you and your partner. Don’t get hung up on perfection—just aim for “great enough.”
Take A Deep Breath At The Ceremony
I’ve been to a few weddings where the officiant encourages the couple and wedding guests to take deep breaths before the ceremony continues. This is a superb way to get everyone on the same page and help get them more present as well!
Write Letters To People You Love
One of my favorite couples, Henry and Rebecca, wrote letters to every guest at their wedding. All at the same time, their loved ones opened these letters. Some shed tears and some just smiled. But it’s safe to say everyone loved this!
