Here’s a lovely list of self-Care ideas for stressed out humans, as told by my four cats, two dogs and some fish!
Self-care is defined as, “any activity that we do deliberately in order to take care of our mental, emotional, and physical health.” (Psych Central) Self-care is sometimes selfish, but really, it’s hunkering down and doing activities that you know will create contentment and satisfaction long-term. For example, I hate doing laundry but the longer my shirts sit there, the more emotional labor it demands in my head. If I just do the laundry, I can put that energy to something else, like writing a blog! hah!
Weddings and love parties alike can be stressful. Hell, life is stressful in general. American culture creates this struggle, where we’re having to hustle in extreme ways to survive, so it’s hard to justify a bath. Or a book.
However, I like to remind myself that I work to live. I do not live to work. In fact, I’m far more productive when I try to work on things that help boost my energy. I enjoy meditating, reading and taking walks to my dogs. In fact, my animals make me chill out better than a lot of things on the planet. I thought maybe I could lend some of the relief and joy they give, while giving you ideas on how to better care for yourself!
Planning a love party or want to know what a love party is? Check out one of my recent blogs all about love parties!
This probably sounds aggressive, but when was the last time you told an energy vampire to f*ck off? You know, that person that always messages you just so they can tell you about themselves and disappear the moment they feel better? Or what about that family member that is always sharing opinions, but never providing support.
Tell them to f*ck off.
Getting married or publicly committing to your partner is a wonderful transition point in your life. It’s a time to start anew, with intention and gratitude. Energy vampires just suck away energy from you and you don’t need that. You don’t deserve it. So drink some water and repeat after me: f*ck off.
Reading is really difficult as an adult. I feel like I’m constantly juggling things, especially when I’m trying to read as a writer, grow as a human and also, read for fun. I’m rotating through about three books at a time right now. However, it’s been really helpful with my anxiety. Reading is meditation of sorts for myself.
So here is a lovely group of books I aim to read before the year is up. Have you read any?
I used to never be a bath person. I’m always too long for the tub and the faucet always just got in the way. When I moved in with Brian, I was elated to discover this big huge garden tub he had invested in when he bought the house. Now, I take about three baths a week and always with epsom salts. The big benefit of epsom salts is that it helps with magnesium absorption, which is reported to help with anxiety and depression. I know I always feel better after a bath!! Now I also really love bath bombs. Have you ever tried a bath bomb?
Sometimes, we just need a good scream. Our partners are not our punching bags though. A safe way to get rid of pent up anger is to take a pillow and scream into it for five minutes. Sound odd? Just try it. Your pillow will forgive you, I promise.
I like to cook at home when I feel like life is getting too chaotic. Being in the kitchen, listening to classic music and having a good time with Brian always helps me center myself. I also really enjoy going out and trying new food! With a dairy allergy, that’s usually more stressful than it’s worth but sometimes, it can be a great way to relax and be present while eating.
I’ve been biking with Argo a lot recently and he LOVES it. Any time I feel like I’m in a rut, it’s always fun to go try something new in Austin. Paddle boarding, trivia, Titty Bingo, Bedpost Confessions. If you don’t want to leave your house, try a YouTube tutorial. Learn a new makeup style, study how to knit, learn some ASL.
I LOVE journaling. Lists are my jam. Writing out my feelings is exactly how I help my brain shuffle information in my Brain Warehouse. I know it’s hard to keep up with, which is why I really love my writing prompts notebook. They’re super exploratory and some are difficult, like “what was the first thing you saved up your money to purchase?” or “what are your thoughts about euthanasia?” I highly recommend this book!
A cat nap is always helpful! There are different benefits to the various lengths of a nap (hello four hours of sleepy love!), but all doctors and scientists and cats agree that a nap is a great way to improve cognitive abilities. So set that alarm and nap away, friend!
This is such a “duh!” moment, right? Nope. I disagree. We can be really hard on ourselves, even if we forgot to eat some veggies today or was a little cranky to someone close to us. Just remember that we’re human. Would you say to a friend what your internal dialogue is muttering?
If you find yourself being rude to yourself, please refer to tip #1 and tell that negative voice to f*ck the right off. You are a wonderful human being with a lot to give into this world. Don’t let it tell you otherwise.