I can’t wait to show you this polyamory wedding!
Before we get to this polyamory wedding, I want to share a little bit about what polyamory is.
Polyamory is almost never what people think it is. It’s also rarely what people want it to be. There is a lot to be said about polyamory, which is entirely dependent on who you talk to. The most major confusion concerning polyamory, across the board, is that people assume it’s about sex. Hell, even “polyamorous” people think it’s mostly about sex.
Polyamory is literally defined as multiple loves. It means you love multiple people, not boink multiple people. I’ll never forget how my sister, when I first came out as polyamorous, just asked me to not discuss my orgies on Facebook. I don’t think I stopped laughing for at least five minutes. I once spoke to a family member about being polyamorous, just casually talking about my situation and partners at the time. She said cautiously, “you know, that isn’t for everyone, right?” As if I was attempting to convert her to my cult, where we drink Amortentia potions daily and just want you to become one of us one of us one of us.
There is no right way to relationship. Polyamory simply isn’t a threat to monogamy. Monogamy is often its own worst enemy, with or without outside influence. Every relationship is different. I’ve seen polyam relationships grow and fizzle just as rapid and often as monogamous relationships.
Another common remark is, “I could never do that, I’d be too jealous.” It fascinates me how people use jealousy as a relationship badge of honor or a warm soft protective blankie. As if they’re REALLY in love, because they have BIG FEELINGS if their partner even looks at someone else. Here’s a not-so-secret: polyamorous people get jealous too! We just sit down and evaluate WHY we’re jealous, try to work through the feelings and decide to not let our emotions rule the way we function in our relationships (theoretically, of course). And no, this does not mean we’re better than anyone else, it just means we’re probably more experienced at relationship-based BIG FEELINGS regulation. That’s all.
I could throw all kinds of studies and info at you, but that’s not why we’re really here. We’re here because these three humans fell in love and created a dynamic that is quite beautiful. Stunning, really. I have a theory that humans are really meant to come in threes. All over the world, some of the best things come in threes. Three course meals, trilogies, the Hanson brothers, three piece suits (drool), the Sanderson sisters and of course, Jolene, Stephani and David.
I loved this wedding. I loved this throple! We had so much at their engagement session, so I knew we would have an amazing time on their big day!
One of best things about the day was the proud family attending, I loved the friends supporting, I adored how often David looked like a fat cat that ate every canary ever. It was so darn cute!I had never done a polyamory wedding before, but I think we handled it all pretty well. Everything took just a little longer, like family formals or the ceremony, which is totally fine! It was a wonderful day, with gorgeous light, stunning weather and happiness galore. I especially loved the copious amounts of jello shots. Every guest was handed a jello shot, which was taken at the end of the ceremony! How awesome is that!
So enough of the blathering, here’s the good good for you to see!
Most was DIY, but shout out to Hecho and Queso for always having amazing food, including gluten free brisket tacos!